Looking for change?

Welcome to my page. Now you are here, have a read through some of the material to help guide you through to the next steps.

“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.”

Agnes Repplier
The Treasure Chest

I believe every life is a life worth living. Everyone has the capacity to make the adjustments to their lives that allow them to experience a difference and begin recognising their own abilities and worth. Sometimes, some of us need a helping hand to make a start.

I developed this course (available for people 18 years or older and not excluding qualified and trainee therapists) to save you a lot more time and money than it cost me over the years to find myself and hold on to my sanity. I created this course with you in mind, to raise your self-awareness and help you to achieve your goals much faster than I did. I will help you along every step of your journey which will enable you to realise what is most important to you without jeopardising what you hold dear.

Now, this is where you ask yourself a few questions to start creating “a life worth living”.

What do I hold most dear and why?

What do I expect to get from what I hold most dear and are these expectations realistic?

Do I find myself questioning why some things in my life feel like they are not working at the moment? 

Why does everything feel hard work? I seem to do more than my fair share, leaving myself exhausted and with more left to do.

Do I ever feel that everything I do is wrong? Is this more often my assumption than the judgement of others?  Am I left experiencing a familiar self-destructive behaviour of over-thinking and responding irrationally to situations?

Do I ever think “Is this all my life has to offer me”? Do I then accept my fate because it feels too much of an effort to imagine myself having the ability to make a difference to my life? Do I feel I am stagnating?

If I make no change to my life, I feel bad person? But I also feel guilty for wanting to change my situation and have a life that I choose? Does this double bind of “damned if I do and damned if I don’t” feel familiar to you? Do I recognise this pattern in my life?

My course will help you to untangle and detach from past learnt behaviours that no longer act as a positive influence in your life, but now interfere with your ability to make productive choices that would bring you contentment and happiness.

“No one has to grow up in a difficult childhood to feel bad about themselves. On the contrary, any childhood will do”.

I have written additional pages for you to read through. These will give you more information and a bigger picture on how life’s challenges can lead to episodes of prolonged poor mental health or low periods. These episodes can affect you at any time – yesterday, today, next week, now – and may stop you being able to move forward with clarity in the direction of your choice.

You may decide that this is the right time to ask some questions, and that I am the right person to help you answer them and make the changes necessary to help you become who you want to be, not who you thought you were.

Warmest regards

Tonie-Francine

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